I thought I would repost a blog that tells a story of what I have learned about so-called negative experiences. Enjoy!
I once had a friend who, when I met her, was looking for a job within our company. She was being laid off, and wanted to switch to another department. I told her they were hiring in my department, and she agreed to have lunch with me to talk about this opportunity.
When we sat down, I told her that I liked my job, and that I appreciated the people I worked with. The managers were helpful with any questions I had, and most of the people were nice.
In short, I liked where I was, and did not see the job ending anytime soon. There were too many issues to be resolved, and there was too much work to be done.
So, she interviewed for the job, and because of her vast, relevant experience, she got the job.
However, she realized that she did not like the job at all.
She felt the environment was very negative, and even got assigned to a task that was grueling, tedious and hard work.
She had to meet a quota every week, and was having trouble meeting that quota.
Later we found out that her old job ended up being more secure, and that it never would go away thanks to increased funding.
I asked her if she regretted leaving the old job just to come to this new department with the tedious assigned work.
She actually said she did not regret coming over at all.
I thought she was nuts.
Then the worst happened, to both of us. We both got laid off from our jobs (remember, this was a job I thought was very secure – you just never know).
I was struggling to find a job for months, since it was during the Recession. My friend found a great job in a new field that she was very good at, and that job gave her experience where she was very much in demand.
She went on to obtain her PMP (Project Management Professional) certification, and even ended up with a nice bonus for getting certified!
I realized that if she had stayed in that safe, old job, she would have never discovered this exciting new field, and would have never gotten the PMP certification.
She would not have gotten paid as much, and would never have received that nice bonus.
Her experience taught me something: there is a blessing in every experience, even when it appears to be very negative.
I invite you to look for the positive aspects in the so-called negative experiences you have had in life. I promise you will find the blessings in that situation.
Remember that life is full of both positive and negative experiences, and it is your job to find the jewels amongst the so-called garbage in life.