Introduction

“Each patient carries his own doctor inside of him.”

– Albert Schweitzer, MD

I remember when I was first diagnosed with lupus. A coworker said to me “Oh, I am so sorry.” I think she thought I was at death’s door, that I was not long for this world. I also remember that instant wanting to say, “No, really, I’m okay. I’m not going to die from this illness. Please do not pity me.”

I still feel that way. If you are introducing me to someone, please do not introduce me as a person “suffering from lupus,” because I don’t suffer from lupus. I am happy to report I have no active disease. I consider myself not just a lupus survivor but a lupus thriver. I have successfully sent me disease into remission. I believe lupus can be healed or the course of the illness significantly improved if you are willing to do the mental work necessary to dissolve it. You too can possibly put lupus into remission as I did and have no active disease. It does not matter how life threatening your illness is, or how many symptoms you have, or how many hospitalizations you have had this year. You can heal yourself of this disease or at least greatly improve your quality of life.

I have learned over the years that if we wait for the medical community to come up with a cure, we will have a long wait. I think this illness may be too complicated to be cured with conventional medicine. I believe those of us who are diagnosed with lupus need to go within to make ourselves whole. Even if researchers came up with a drug for lupus that cured most people, it would still not make us whole. A cure is not the same as healing. While a cure will only suppress the symptoms of lupus, healing means to become whole.

Here’s my biggest problem in prospecting for remote energy healing.  People say they are interested in intuitive energy healing.  Then, I follow up and I don’t get a response.   More often, they will want me to call them back in a month when they can fit it into their schedule.  Then they don’t respond to that either.

What energetic frequency am I putting out there when selling to these people?

Then I looked at my own buying (er, not buying) behavior.

I looked at all of the unanswered sales texts, people wanting meetings that I ignore, invitations to challenges, repeated sales calls I kept dodging, political emails I ignored, and the like.

Then I realized I was doing something very similar!!

So I changed my energy. I answered every single current request email, text, and call, told them I wasn’t interested and thanked them for thinking of me. I also didn’t apologize for not being interested!! I decided to just see what happens.

I recognized that I had a limiting belief that it was better to avoid the so-called confrontation of telling others I didn’t want to do it or I’m wasn’t interested.

Here’s the immediate benefit. I stopped wasting energy dodging people, thinking they’re too aggressive.  Or, being bothered by what they’re selling – my stuff around that.   I drew all that energy back inward and actually had more to utilize for more productive tasks.   

Now that I am no longer in the vibration of non-assertive dodging when people are selling to me, it’s only a matter of time when I cease to attract people who are an energetic match to that.

So I invite you to consider this if you sell anything:  When you get rejected, what’s going on there?  Where are you doing something similar when you get approached?

As they say in the coaching world:  You spot it, you got it.

I thought I would repost this blog that I wrote two years ago.  I hope that someone who is going through a similar experience won’t feel so alone.

Last weekend I went to my first grief support group for the loss of my husband.  Jerry had passed away almost two years before, but I had to take care of my mother, so I set my grieving for him aside.

I have lost four people in the last two years, three of which were family members.   I lost a dear friend two years ago in July, my husband Jerry in January of the following year, my uncle in July of the next year and then my mother in June of this year.

That’s a lot of loss.

I’m not sure why I haven’t gone totally crazy by now.

When my father was diagnosed with terminal cancer, I developed severe depression and had to be hospitalized.

People feared I would become ill again when my husband passed away.

But nothing happened.  Even when my mom died.

The reason I think I didn’t get sick is because all of the people that died in the last two years were very ill, and the loss was what they call “uncomplicated” – it was expected.

It doesn’t make it any easier though.

I lost my dear girlfriend to brain cancer.  Who am I going to discuss The Course in Miracles with?  Only she could have related to the Course in Miracles!

I lost my sweet, loving husband Jerry to pneumonia.  Now there’s no one to come home to at night.

I lost my endearing uncle to colon cancer.  Who’s going to make me laugh in my darkest hours?

Finally, I lost my mother, my best girlfriend in the whole world.  To whom am I going to tell my deepest darkest secrets?

These people left quite a hole in my life.

I have been feeling anxious for no reason at all.

I’ve also been angry at everyone at work for no good reason.   Thank God I was working at home that day!

However, I know these feelings won’t last forever.  I have met some really awesome people in my support group who have had worse losses than I have.

Together we will get through this, one day at a time.  I just wish it wouldn’t take so damn long.

 

 

We really do create our future.  This week, I wanted to share an experience where I manifested an offer on my house.

I decided to sell my house since I could not afford to live there anymore and wanted to move to a less expensive area.  So, I got it ready to put on the market.

Unfortunately, other people in the neighborhood had the same idea.  They had similar houses and they decided to sell theirs as well.

I had a lot of competition.  It seemed quite unlikely I would get an offer anytime soon, even though the home was in a great location.

I decided not to give in to worry and fear.  I meditated on a future potential where I easily and quickly got an offer on the house.  I used Dr. Joe Dispenza’s Tuning into New Potentials meditation.

I also wanted to sell my furniture, so I envisioned the buyer wanting to buy the furniture as well.

I did that for about six weeks.  During that time, I meditated on that potential every day.

When fear and worry set in, I did a journaling exercise that I learned in a money workshop called “Align with Money:  A Day to Find Peace and Calm with Money”, which was organized by my dear colleagues and friends Sandra MacDougall and Carol Plummer.

I did not let worry and fear thoughts slip past my consciousness.

Then I let go of attachment to outcome.  I simply surrendered.

Then I received a call from my realtor.

I got an offer on the house!  At the price I wanted!  AND, the buyer was interested in buying my furniture.

It worked out just as I created it!

I think meditating on this new potential every day, not letting worry and fear get to me, and then finally letting go manifested this offer.  All of this in a pretty tough environment full of competition.

Know that you always create your future and recognize what a powerful manifestor you really are!

 

 

 

 

I thought I would repost a blog I wrote a few months ago, because I relearned that lesson when I went to a workshop this weekend.

I found myself comparing and contrasting my experiences with other people’s experiences.

I realized that we all are unique, and can’t really compare ourselves to others.  It’s a waste of energy and time.

I realized, as B.B. King had stated, “They are not me.”

Here’s the blog from a few months ago that I think bears repeating:

As you may have heard, B.B. King, the legendary blues singer, passed away recently.  On the news, there was a clip of something he said that I thought was very poignant.

I think we can all learn from what B.B. King said.

He stated that many people do exactly what he does (sing the blues), and that many people could do it better than he did.

However, they were not him.

Think about this statement for a minute.

How many times have you played the comparison game with others, thinking someone can do something better then you and felt inferior?

But they are not you!

You bring your own unique perspective, personality and flair to whatever you do.

I know that there are many great writers out there.  Many people know how to write.

Many people write books and many people blog regularly.

I could obsess about this, if I chose to.  I know that many people probably write better than I do.  I’ve always had strong writing skills, but I’m not a brilliant writer like many best-selling authors out there.

They’re not me though.

I bring my own unique experiences to my writing and blogging.  No one else has the perspective that I do.

So it is with you.

So the next time you feel “less than” a co-worker, friend or competitor, know that they are not you!

You are equal to everyone else.  You are no better or worse than anyone.

And know that you have your own unique gifts, talents and abilities to offer this world.

Remember that you are a magnificent, unique, human being just the way you are.

Don’t deny your magnificence by comparing yourself to someone else.

Remember what B.B. King said about himself.

“They’re not me.”

And he was a legend.

You are a legend too, in your own unique way.  Always remember that.